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My lover's a one-minute man
Dear Dr Patti
I am in love with a one-minute man. I have never been tolerant of a man who lasts for only one minute, so I must truly feel for him otherwise I would have left by now. The fact that he has let me down repeatedly tends to worry me. Will I ever have that essential orgasm with him?
R
I love your question, as it is a dilemma so many women face. When a woman loves a man and he does not seem capable of fulfilling her sexual needs, she is caught in a tangled web of her head, heart and groin. I teach that you are responsible for your own orgasm. Surprisingly, that implies it's your responsibility to think, fantasise, do or feel what is necessary for you to have the maximum pleasure of which your sexual anatomy is capable.
What's sad is that some couples simply cannot get to the point of sexual satisfaction in bed. It appears that your lover has very limited sexual experience. Sex therapy could be very helpful for him, and for you both as a couple. He should also visit his GP or family planning clinic, as there are excellent treatments available for premature ejaculation these days. The Masters-Johnson technique works very well.
By learning his own sexual patterns and how to control them, he might be able to produce that ‘essential’ orgasm, which I sense means to you the type that happens with the penis-in-vagina position.
Another approach is for him to allow you to share intimacy in other ways, such as by gentle massage and using his hand, mouth or electrical or sex toys to get you orgasmic before he enters you. That way, the one minute will be pure ecstasy for your body, which will already be at the peak of pleasure, and the two of you can sail off into the sunset of delight without disappointment or further pressure.
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