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To fling or not to fling?

by Dr Patti Britton

question
Dear Dr Patti
I have been married five years and have a little child. We are happy and have an excellent relationship. During a business meeting, I met a very attractive man. He is also married and has a stable situation with his wife. We became very good friends after that meeting. I decided I just want to make love with him, just to try it once. I know he finds me very attractive too. I spoke with him about it and he thinks that this could destroy both our friendship and our families. Can a one-off adventure be so destructive?
L

answer
Dear L
Yes. Your erotic fancy is a wise old owl to give you such excellent advice. So pay attention to what he is saying. You do take a serious risk, even with one hop under the covers, of opening up a Pandora's box. Sex is so much more than just a physical act: it encompasses your mind, emotions and body, the social set-ups of the persons involved and your spirit. Your single foray into adventure may create a bond you do not want to break, which could result in breaking not just agreements but hearts, marital vows and family units. You do have a little child.

Use your raging desire for this man by channelling it into having a hot time with your own husband. By the way, after several months, if this other man were the one who shared the bills and took out the rubbish at night, he might not look so appealing after all.

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