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The EUM factor
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The psychologist's conclusion
As far as clinical psychologist, Ron Bracey, is concerned, June is the one with the biggest problems in the relationship. 'Relationships are never constant. Nothing is. One day the weather is fantastic and next day it's bleak. Relationships are like that, and people oscillate from day to day, depending on their mood or broader things. Peter is being honest when he tells her one-day, he feels like this, and on another, it's like that. But it's hard for her when he's not being consistent. If he is with her just for sex, he should make that clear, so that she can say yes, or no - I want more than this.'
The psychologist's conclusion
As far as clinical psychologist, Ron Bracey, is concerned, June is the one with the biggest problems in the relationship. 'Relationships are never constant. Nothing is. One day the weather is fantastic and next day it's bleak. Relationships are like that, and people oscillate from day to day, depending on their mood or broader things. Peter is being honest when he tells her one-day, he feels like this, and on another, it's like that. But it's hard for her when he's not being consistent. If he is with her just for sex, he should make that clear, so that she can say yes, or no - I want more than this.'
From his experience of dealing with EUMs, there is not much of a chancethat Peter will change. 'A lot of people just muddle through and are stuck in'uncomfortable comfort traps.'' It's too uncomfortable for them to be changing into something that might be even more uncomfortable, so they keep ongoing as they are. I suspect Peter might be one of these types.'
But according to Dr Cox, EUMs can change. 'But usually only when they have had someawful experience and burn out. They are stopped in their tracks and theyrealise they can't go on as they are devastating theirs, and others lives.'
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