The EUM factor

Soon afterwards they spent a couple of weekends together. 'Peter was ambivalent and not very attentive, but I was overwhelmed by my feelings for him. We seemed to connect at a very deep level,' she says.

During one of his visits, Peter admitted he had strong feelings for June. But within months, on the last night of a lovely camping holiday together, ten minutes after making love, he got up and said, 'This isn't going anywhere.' Peter told her she wasn't part of his future plans and that apart from sex, they had nothing in common.

After a long period when he would not talk to her, and refused to answer her calls, there was a sudden flurry of letters and phone calls from him. Peter drew June back into the relationship, saying he couldn't bear to be without her. 'By then I was realising what a troubled soul he was, but I still loved him. I agreed to spend the weekend with him, but I am still not sure where all this is leading me. Do we go on like this, on his terms, with the occasional weekend visits until I get the commitment from him that I want, or will he always set the agenda, making sure I never get too close?'