How a man thinks
Do you think men only have one thing on their minds? Well, in many ways that's true, but it's not necessarily what you'd think
Men seem more complicated because we often don't give them credit for pondering issues we believe only us women think through. For example, we assume they don't give much thought to what they want in a long-term relationship, or what they think about the women they meet, or monitoring whether they're falling in love or just having a fling. But they do think about these things, it's just that 'male thinking' tends to be more straightforward. Where women consider their relationships through the 'A-to-Z of possibilities,' men are more goal-directed and use a more direct 'A-to-B' approach.
'A-to-B' approach When a man spots a woman he is very quickly aware of whether he is attracted to her or not, without weighing up a huge number of factors that a woman might think about when she clocks a man in a bar.
A woman might look at his friends and analyse them. She might also be more aware of his clothing and make judgments about him based on this. She might consider things like, 'Do I have enough time to chat and show interest in this man who looks attractive?' We think through a million thoughts at that initial phase of attraction. A man, on the other hand, is less likely to over-analyse or 'dress up' his initial attraction or interest.
Goal-directed thinking Another example of 'male thinking' that is critical to initial attraction and the potential to get something going is that, believe it or not, by far the majority of men will not be interested in game playing. Yes, they'll respond well to flirting and will flirt back. Yes, they're attracted to interesting and confident women. However, on the whole they'd like to keep things goal-directed and straightforward.
This means that when you meet a man in a bar, and he asks you if you would like to meet up again, all he really wants is a straightforward answer, yes or no. A man doesn't want awkward moments of indecision or what he perceives to be indecision. A man wants a clear and definite signal that you are, or are not, interested. He'll have reached his 'goal' if you say yes or no to meeting up. Unlike many of us ladies, he is not thinking ahead to whether or not he wants to have babies with you!
To summarise 'male thinking' Men are thoughtful, intelligent creatures but they don't tend to analyse situations in great depth, assess more than their immediate goal, or look too far into the future.
Get to grips with this week's love challenges and you'll take positive steps towards being able to understand and relate to men.
Now take a look at men's body language (please hyperlink). Then find out about the different personality traits all men posses (HYPERLINK)
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