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A new survey by DatingDirect.com, reveals 84 per cent of single Brits struggle to find a date
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Seven things he won't know he's doing wrong until you tell him
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6. Making arrangements in front of people. 'Mind if I go to the football with Dave next Saturday?' he asks, forgetting that you've arranged to visit your mother that day. The trouble is, he asks you when Dave's there. He expects you to be honest. Because that's what he would do. If you asked him in front of a girlfriend whether he'd mind you going shopping with her next Saturday, he'd be perfectly comfortable about saying, 'But I thought we were going to my mother's?' Men are much more straightforward in voicing their thoughts. What they forget is that 'straightforward' can often translate as 'offensive'. It doesn't enter his head that you'll want to avoid offending Dave. Remind him that 'Planning Your Diary' is a game for two people, not three.7. Giving vague responses about what he's been up to. When you ask him how his day was, he replies, 'Not bad'. And that's precisely what he means: it wasn't great, but it wasn't bad. He has nothing to report, so he doesn't report anything. Whereas you tell him everything about your office: who's had their hair done, who's not getting on with whom, who's pushing for promotion. Your man doesn't have the same need for details as you do. So he doesn't realise that without them you can feel left out. Tell him that the odd detail from his day wouldn't go amiss.
6. Making arrangements in front of people. 'Mind if I go to the football with Dave next Saturday?' he asks, forgetting that you've arranged to visit your mother that day. The trouble is, he asks you when Dave's there. He expects you to be honest. Because that's what he would do. If you asked him in front of a girlfriend whether he'd mind you going shopping with her next Saturday, he'd be perfectly comfortable about saying, 'But I thought we were going to my mother's?' Men are much more straightforward in voicing their thoughts. What they forget is that 'straightforward' can often translate as 'offensive'. It doesn't enter his head that you'll want to avoid offending Dave. Remind him that 'Planning Your Diary' is a game for two people, not three.7. Giving vague responses about what he's been up to. When you ask him how his day was, he replies, 'Not bad'. And that's precisely what he means: it wasn't great, but it wasn't bad. He has nothing to report, so he doesn't report anything. Whereas you tell him everything about your office: who's had their hair done, who's not getting on with whom, who's pushing for promotion. Your man doesn't have the same need for details as you do. So he doesn't realise that without them you can feel left out. Tell him that the odd detail from his day wouldn't go amiss.
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