Splitting up: Seven tips for survival

by Ilana Arazie

Whether you were dating for a few months, in a long-term relationship or married, breaking up is hard work. The good news is that life does get better. Eventually, you will be able to get out of bed, go a day without bursting into tears and have fun times again. Many of our members know exactly how you feel right now.

Read their tips on getting over him and moving on with your life.

1. Get it all out
'Cry, scream and feel sorry for yourself. Wallow in self-pity. However, one day while you are wallowing you suddenly won't feel like wallowing any more and 'you'll' feel better and each day after that you will feel even better. Soon, you are smiling and laughing again as you used to. Suddenly you are thankful for what the experience taught you.' - mplus2000

2. Focus on today
Take things one step at a time, one day at a time. If you start looking towards or thinking about next week, next month or next year, you'll feel overwhelmed. Don't look at the broader picture yet - temporarily limit your view, so to speak.' - nategirl

3. Think positively
'If you think you are beaten you are. It's all in your state of mind. Those who are stronger or faster do not always win life's battles. Sooner or later the person who wins is the person who thinks he can.' - gentlesouls

4. Don't stay bitter
'Not all women and men are the same. After my divorce, I became extremely bitter and angry. I did not trust anyone, particularly women. I isolated myself from everyone. Hey, why not - no contact equals no pain or hurt, right? Let me tell you something. When you isolate yourself, you create an island. But in the end islands sink. Being bitter is normal - it's simply a stage you are going to go through. But move through it quickly.' - larry566