Techniques for mind-blowing sex

I believe there are many roads to Rome and to multiple orgasms, says Dr Patti Britton

By freeing ourselves of inhibitions, jettisoning old beliefs about our sexual capacities and learning the necessary skills, we can all reach sexual ecstasy again and again, all in the same night.

First, it's important to put your mind at ease and get into the mood for sex. Clear your mind. Stop that inner chatter and focus on what you’re about to receive — your due pleasure. Turn off that telephone and make time for yourself. Whether alone or with a sexual partner, sex is sex. Masturbation or self-pleasuring is a sexual outlet in its own right and one to be enjoyed to the max if Mr or Ms Right is not about. Most of these tips are for couples, but you can follow them alone as well.

Set the mood
Start with sensual time, alone or with him or her. Run a bath and light candles while pouring in your favourite bubble bath and scent. I recommend aromatherapy salts to stimulate your moods and relax body, mind and spirit. Put relaxing and romantic music on the CD player, set aside some soothing body lotion or oils — natural is best — sink into the warmth of the water and relax. If your lover is with you, even better. This is a terrific way to relax together and get into the mood for lovemaking. You might scrub each other’s backs or rub-a-dub-dub in all the right places, to allow those tight muscles to loosen and to get your heads into gear for the delicious road ahead.

Couples report to me that there really is nothing to match a sensual massage for letting go and relaxing together. Take turns to give and receive massage — softly, firmly, gently, slowly — to produce even more relaxation. Remember that great sex usually only occurs with relaxed bodies, so take the time to unwind and prepare yourself.