Tips for dating colleagues

Got your eye on someone at work? Whether you're dating one of your colleagues, or you're just flirting with the idea, here's our 10 tips for getting it on without getting the sack

Another day, another rumour that workmates Robert Pattinson and Kristen Stewart have mistaken the Twilight set for the back of the bike sheds. 'They're like a couple of love-struck teenagers,' says a source.

Not really a surprise, is it? Co-stars are always getting it on, thanks to their outrageous prettiness and the long hours they spend together on set.

Even for us civilians, working together has become the second-most popular way to meet a lover (jointly with online dating; first place goes to 'through friends').

But is it wise to hook up when you share a boss and a canteen? What if you break up, or your boss disapproves? It's a minefield, but tread carefully and you can make it work. Here's how.

1. Leave the lovey-dovey stuff at home

You're paid to do a job, not to make goo-goo eyes over the computer monitors.

Bosses tend to frown upon workmate relationships, not because they're heartless tyrants, but because your flirting can embarrass and irritate your colleagues. It also distracts you from the job you're paid to do.

It's especially important to keep your ogling under wraps if you work in a public place. You're the public face of your employer. Don't harm their reputation by groping your boyfriend-stroke-workmate's bum while you're stacking shelves.

2. Keep your rows out of the office

Save the spats for the bus stop. Like the lovey-dovey stuff, tension between you will distract you from your work and annoy your workmates. If you're going through a rocky patch, make an extra effort to stay focused on your job. It'll help you stay sane (and employed).

Don't be tempted to go crying to the girls at work about any problems you're having. Of course you want their support, but you're opening the gossip floodgates.

3. Don't try to hide it

There's no point trying to keep a work romance under wraps. Someone's bound to suss you out, and the rumours will soon start to spread. Better to be out in the open. But be prepared to re-think the relationship or your job if your boss objects.

4. Beware of email monitoring

Many companies keep tabs on emails and phone calls. Yes it's an invasion of your privacy, but it's a fact of life in most workplaces. They pay your wages; they've got you by the htmls.

If you need to let your bloke know'Fox & Hounds at 8:00,' use your mobile. If you need to let him know that the sight of him is making your ladybits burn, for God's sake use telepathy.

5. Get some personal space

Constant togetherness sounds like heaven when you first get together, but give it a few months (well, days) and you'll be desperate for space.

If you're dating a bloke from work, think very carefully before moving in together at home. Seeing his face 24/7 will make you want to strangle him, and not in a good way.