Can I make holiday romance last?
Dear Sally Ann,
I'm 34, single and recently went on holiday by myself to a resort in Turkey. I met a wonderful 24-year-old Turkish man who worked as a chef at the resort. He made me feel like the most beautiful and special person on earth. By the end of the week we were sleeping together. Now that I'm back in England, we keep in touch by email and I'm planning to go back to the resort later this year.
He's keen to see me again and may come and stay with me during the winter. I feel like I could marry him. Am I being silly and unrealistic about my long-term chances with this man?
Please help!
Sarah
Cross-cultural relationships can work. Long-distance relationships can work. Holiday romances sometimes last and age differences often don't matter. But, boy, what a combo!
I don't doubt the sincerity of your feelings for this man. But there's a huge gap between that and wondering whether you want to marry him. Don't scare him with talk of marriage. Keep up the friendly contact and go and see him later in the year as you have planned. If that goes well, he can come and visit you. The moment of truth always happens on your own territory.
Just remember: the female imagination is fertile. Calm down, as you would have to do if you were going out with the man next door. You ARE being unrealistic but that's alright. Just don't be silly too.
I don't doubt the sincerity of your feelings for this man. But there's a huge gap between that and wondering whether you want to marry him. Don't scare him with talk of marriage. Keep up the friendly contact and go and see him later in the year as you have planned. If that goes well, he can come and visit you. The moment of truth always happens on your own territory.
Just remember: the female imagination is fertile. Calm down, as you would have to do if you were going out with the man next door. You ARE being unrealistic but that's alright. Just don't be silly too.
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