Understanding men: mixed messages

Men take things word-for-word, women look for the deeper meaning. That's just the way our brains work - but it can lead to trouble. Here are seven ways men take things too literally ... and some solutions to the problems they cause:

1. Half-hearted housework

You ask him to hang out the washing. He does exactly that. But, he fails to notice that last night's pans are sitting dirty in the sink and that the flat's as dusty as the Sahara. Don't assume he'll spot jobs you haven't mentioned - give him an itemised list.

2. Sympathy in short supply

He asks you 'what's wrong ?' 'Nothing,' you reply, but in a tone of voice that makes it clear you mean the opposite. You expect him to sense your need for comfort - but he takes the answer literally and carries on watching the football. Instead, give an answer that he has to respond to. For instance, 'oh, it's not that serious...'




3. Persistent pests

An unwanted admirer asks you out to dinner. You tell him you're seeing a friend that night. He asks again: you say you're not feeling well. He asks a third time: you reply that you're going to Bolivia for three months. You think he's got the message. But he's a man. The only message he gets is the literal one. The fact you think he's a revolting creep escapes him completely. He'll keep asking until you tell him that you're really not interested. If necessary, invent a boyfriend or an unusual gynaecological problem.