What to do if you are Sexually Harassed at Work

Find out what you can do to stop the harasser. You don't have to take it.

Confront the harasser

If you do this verbally, speak up straight away, or practise what you are going to say first. You might want to ask one of your colleagues, or your union representative, someone you feel you can trust, to accompany you to give you moral support. If necessary, they could also act as a witness. Speak clearly and slowly, maintaining direct eye contact. Describe the behaviour, its effect on you, and that you want it to stop. Ignore any attempts to trivialise or dismiss what you say. Don’t smile or apologise; this will undermine your complaint. When you have finished what you want to say, walk away: the less you say, the more powerful you’ll be.

If you feel you can’t face the harasser, you might prefer to write to them to explain that their behaviour is making you feel uncomfortable, angry or belittled, and that you want it to stop. Let them know that you will take the matter further if they carry on. It’s useful to keep a copy of the letter.

Keep a dairy of incidents

Note down all the behaviour that offends you in a diary. Record the date, time and place and the names of any other people who are there. This will help you to remember details if you have to make a complaint. If the harassment is affecting your health, causing symptoms of stress or depression, for example, go to see your doctor.