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What men really think of women who 'put out' on the first date

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By Jane Hoskyn

Ever wondered if sex on the first date is too much too soon? Real gents tell us what they think about early nookie

Most women will tell you that they're scared of seeming 'easy' and of sending their new man running if they have sex with him on the first date.

But according to a recent survey, three-quarters of men and women say it's fine to have sex on a first date. Is that true? Or is there still a double standard that says quick-shaggers are easy if they're women, and studs if they're men?

We asked men - single and attached, in their 20s and 30s - what they really thought about first-date sex. Here's what they told us.

1. The double standard isn't dead

Paul, 35: 'I've got a few stupid friends who think 'ooh she's a slag' if she sleeps with him on the first night, which is very unfair. But that's fine, because women don't go out with men like that - so there's more left for me!'

Dylan, 28: 'If a girl sleeps with you on a first date, you assume she'd do it with anyone. Any honest man would say the same.'

2. Men are also scared of looking 'easy'

Jamie, 25: 'Girls have more respect for you if you wait before having sex. If I really fancy a girl, of course I want to do it on the first date, but I also want her to think I'm a keeper. So I usually wait until the third date or so.'

Dan, 29: 'If I've had a date with a girl I really like, I don't want her to think that I'm only after sex.'

Alfie, 20: 'Personally, if I really like a girl, I'm always too nervous to do it on a first date. I think she'll judge me badly.'

3. If he dumps you after sex, he'd have dumped you anyway

Paul, 35: 'I've got four older sisters, and they all say that first-date sex drives men away. But it doesn't work like that. The one time I did it on a first date and gave her the brush-off afterwards, it was because I fancied her enough to have sex but not enough to go out with her.'

Jamie, 25: 'If I have sex with a girl I just met, and I don't want to see her again, it's not because we had sex. I wouldn't have wanted to see her again anyway.'

4. 'Let's just cuddle' never means 'let's just cuddle'

Chris, 33: 'The number of times I've gone home with a woman and she's said, 'let's just sleep like spoons', haha! Next thing you know, they're taking their knickers off. If you fancy each other enough to go home and snuggle up, you're going to have sex with each other. Be honest.'

5. First-date sex doesn't mean no relationship

Chris, 33: 'Sex on a first date just means we fancied each other enough at the time. I might want a relationship and I might not - having sex doesn't change my mind. If the sex is great, it might make me even more keen.'

Paul, 35: 'My two longest relationships were with women I slept with on the first date. There's no point in waiting just for the sake of it.'

Andre, 26: 'Good relationships are based on being honest about your feelings, fancying each other and having great sex. So I think good sex on a first date is a sign of relationship potential. Making her wait as some kind of 'test' isn't very nice.'

Dan, 29: 'Sex is always more exciting when you do it in that first explosion of lust. Sex with someone you really love is great too, but it's different.'

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spandan sunar
gosh i feel like those were my questions laid out there. Maybe there reason us girls consider the unthinkable. When we are younger its because you think a guy thinks like you- meaning there lower region is connected to there heart some how, and couldn't do it that if they didn't like you. Wrong! there is no connection except for the fact they find you attractive and want to try there luck. When the deed is they have the cheek judge! men are simple creatures and make assumptions on what they see and experience without considering why it was done. that's why us girls have be careful- and have to considering how we are seen/perceived at all times. Remember this: Perception is just that Perception and doesn't define you- so make you happy and let them worry about the perceptions. Girls, just to do you...

I really don't understand those men that feel the fear of the first date?????

Do you guys have experience how beautifull is to have sex with a woman that you want and you don't know...release all the frustation connect with her...you want just more and more of her.

 

Then when she became your girfriend or your wife that first night is the only different...you can't repite it!!! I have been lucky in my life and she is the story that I love more!!!