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Overcoming loneliness at work

When we expect people to behave the way we want them to, we are setting ourselves up for disappointment. By accepting others for who they are and demonstrating an interest in them, we get much better results. Try to stop thinking about what's happening to you and think about other people instead. Have you demonstrated a sincere interest in any of them? Or are you irritated that nobody has taken any interest in you? The fact is, we teach others how to treat us.

Also, I bet you're giving yourself negative messages all the time. Are you telling yourself, 'They're not friendly; nobody pays attention to me; they're making me dislike this job...' Cancel out those thoughts and tell yourself that you'll only think positively from now on.

Then, try approaching them instead of expecting them to approach you. But bear in mind that if you look upon your job as a chance to socialise, it could be that your work colleagues are trying to tell you different. If so, bear in mind that this is nothing to do with you personally.

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